Facebook being an application owned by a person known as zukerbarg, it is an application that is driving so many people’s lives crazy. By this, I mean that Facebook has produced a presentable record as being among the social sites that people especially teenagers can spend hours scrolling. So many of these teenagers may be wasting their time in it, but others may be using the site to manipulate and use others to make their own life progress. A great number of the teenagers may spend a moment scrolling on their friend list and also wondering if the list is representing the actual number of friends that they are supposed to be having. From these deductions, the may be motivated to reduce or increase their friends list (Kirkpatrick, 2010). This is always achieved by sending more friends requests to gain more friends or blocking some of the nuisance friends to shrink the list.
By this, it does not mean that teenagers get high tendency of getting stronger friendships and also relationships. Face book may help in creating stronger relationships by; distance friendship is one of the things that Facebook have tried to maintain this is because by using Facebook one can be able to talk with a friend who is miles and miles away and also share so many things electronically. Through Facebook friends who used to be together during their childhood can be texting every day and also sharing information of the things that they are encountering on their day to day life progress. For instance; having my friend James who was my classmate at grade one, who later moved to Canada with his parents as my Facebook friend, this relationship is maintained strong and lively by sharing the information mostly pictures of the great and also the evil things that we encounter every day. Through Facebook, I introduce James to ma friends and they become his friends too ( Harvell, 2012). I have also introduced him to my parents whom he wasn’t aware of at the time they were leaving to Canada.
Being a teenager, I need always to know and understand what is happening daily to the modern world. By this, I have to connect with so many people whom I can trust and by that they can always give me access of all the information I need every time. Some of the friends that I have reconnected with include my old relative whom we used not to talk, but due to the introduction and spread of Facebook I can connect and understand what happens to their lives daily (Kirkpatrick, 2010). Due to the improved in the Facebook application the pop-up windows that suggest friend that may be familiar to me have helped me to get more friends who are in Facebook and I dint even recognize their names. Through this, I have come to realize that I have accumulated too many friends who feed me with a lot of information daily. A bond that has been created between me and them since I joined Facebook is so strong that I cannot even be able to break it.
In school teenagers are used to small groups of friends who just represent a small amount of what the world hold as friends. Through Facebook teenagers learn to meet with other friends with diversified minds and also ideas of life that may help greatly in the modern world. Due to the large Facebook membership the is approaching trillions a teenager have a higher possibility of getting a friend that shares the same character and who can make a very good and a worthwhile friend (Kirkpatrick, 2010). Due to the fact that teenagers are among the people who get stressed very much, they become the largest number of people who are In need of other persons to talk to, from this urge Facebook has created a very good market where this people who are ready to listen and not criticize is available. Social media have gone too far and created an inbox where you can inbox some of your friends the problems that u have and the can help u to go through them. This has been facilitated by the fast speed of sending and receiving messages.
When an account in Facebook is opened one gets a wall, the wall is linked to all your friends. This means that at one time u post a mail on your wall, all of your friends are able to view, like or even comment on it. Posting something that is affecting you and see it accumulate a large number of likes and also comments that either encourage or even discouraging you is among the things make teenagers feel that they have a friend that is always there for them. Just imagine yourself communicating or just discussing a small issue with thousands and thousands of friends at the same time, doesn’t u think it can feel great ( Mezrich, 2009). This is how Facebook has created stronger friends who can never leave u at any time, and if they can, it is not all of them.
On the other hand, Facebook does not create stronger friendships and relationships; this is because of some of the outcomes it brings to the modern society that drives the whole generation backwards. Even if technology is good sometimes the problems that are associated with it are so strong to even control. Sometimes even the advantages and the privileges it brings are much less compared to the disadvantages.
By the fact that the friends already exist, the social media like Facebook can be used to strengthen them, but making good new relationships? No, from the psychological part of it is not even healthy to have somebody else to become your friend without interacting with him or her physically. This is because many of this friends have been seen changing to be bullies and kidnappers who later destroy the relationship instead of strengthening it. Biologically a normal human individual prefers to talk to another individual whom he or she is seeing, feeling and also hearing. Technically this individual cannot be existing in a social site.
For children and teenagers, not all the post that they post on their walls will be appreciated by everyone. For instance, in Facebook teenagers are used to posting their pictures, Assuming that a teenager does not look very presentable to his or her friends, the teen can receive more than a thousand and one critics, which will eventually lower her self-esteem and also her socializing skills ( Mezrich, 2009). By this, the social media have not done anything to strengthen the relationship with her friends, what it has done is to introduce a feeling that will always haunt the teenager and make hear very weak social animal.
To be sincere Facebook and other social sites are not good strengtheners of relationships this is because, the only thing it does is to create a room for those individuals that are not ready to go out there to look for real friend and whose their interest is just to stay indoors. The analysis has shown that it is only less the ten percent of the friendships made in face book survive in the real world. By this, it means that about ninety percent of these friendships start and also end in Facebook (Wiley, 2010). Even if the platform gives the opportunity to share that much it means that that much isn’t enough to create a normal real friendship that can really carry on for decades.
Social media for instance Facebook cannot strengthen a relationship or a friendship due to the fact that , the social medias leaves a loophole for people to ignore your post and at that time the capability of controlling everybody who sees your post is minimized. In social networks, the relationships are always encouraged by comments, likes and also the tweets that your friends add on your comment ( Harvell, 2012). If your post have a few of no comment, then to the teenagers it means that the list of the friends that you have don’t care about you. To me this kind of friendship is not the best. This is because you don’t really understand the real moods of your social friends unless they decide to disclose it to you.
Finally social media destructs teenagers from making good friendships that could be helpful to their future by introducing the distant friend who can be real physically present for both of you to discuss more real things. It destructs someone especially the teenagers from the greater chance that they have to create their social life with something else that by fact is less fruitful. If the relationships created in social media are evaluated it can be found that they are less in number and less secure to the relationships and the friendships that have been created physically (Wiley, 2010).
In conclusion, I would say that social media does not strengthen the friendships and relationships between the teens because the negative effects are much worse than the positive effects that it introduces to those teens who are so enthusiastic to have as many friends as they can.
Abram, Carolyn, and Leah Pearlman. Facebook for dummies. Hoboken, N.J.: Wiley, 2010. Print.
This is a book that talks about how Facebook have gone ahead to create demies that are not and will not be useful to the modern word in the near future. The book talks about the great number of useless people that Facebook has made. The book talks about haw Facebook have created a platform for this group of people to easily hide their inability to work or perform duties regularly.
Bryfonski, Dedria. The global impact of social media. Detroit, MI: Greenhaven Press, 2012. Print.
This is a book that focuses only on the impacts of the social media the the modern man’s life. The book revolves along positive and the negative effect of the social media trying to show us not to stick on the negative ones and to keep focused on the positive ones. It is a book that wants us to understand that everything in this world has its advantages and disadvantages.
Franklin, Bob. Social policy, the media and misrepresentation. London: Routledge, 1999. Print.
This was a book that was written to try and show the world how it have gone ahead to mis interplate the social medias, this have always been facilitated by the high growth of the stereotype that the social site is good and it that is really awesome to be in it. These kinds from mostly friends have led to the misrepresentation of the social sites as good where the fact remains that they are not the best for our children.
Harvell, Ben. Facebook. Hoboken, N.J.: John Wiley & Sons Inc., 2012. Print.
This is a book that generally talks about Facebook. The positive and the negative perspectives of the site, the achievements that it has achieved in the past few years of its existence and the why it is among the leading social sites in the world. The book has gone farther to describe how such a network like Facebook makes it money while people think that it doesn’t make even a single cent while it makes billions per day.
Kirkpatrick, David. The Facebook effect: the inside story of the company that is connecting the world. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2010. Print.
This is a book that discuses mainly the effect of the social site to the whole world. By this it means that the impact to the owners, the future of the country, the citizens who are its members , the problems and the advantages they get from the social site, the magnitude of the effect the social site causes and also the reason behind it causing such an impact.
Mezrich, Ben. The accidental billionaires: the founding of Facebook, a tale of sex, money, genius and betrayal. New York: Doubleday, 2009. Print. This is a book that talks about the founders of the social site i.e. zukaberg, the amount of wealth that he has accumulated from running Facebook, his expected fortune in the near future and the reason why he isn’t going to stop getting rich any time soon. The boon tries to educate the young generation on how to thing big while still young. It also introduces the young generations on the ways of how to be young and innovative so as to achieve the best that can.
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