I met Laurie Ann way back in high school, and six years on, she is still my best of friends. The first day we met, she walked up to me and introduced herself. It felt way weird shaking her hand like grownups do and declaring my name to her after the hand shake. "Stacie Oliker?" "Pretty name." she remarked instantly. This close friendship allowed me to come to know and experience a level of self disclosure like no other. With her I was and still am myself. Our high school friendship has unfolded over the years and has given us considerable time to build our relationship and invest in a friendship of an enormous value. My high school friendship with Laurie was my whole life, and I had placed a high stake on this friendship more so as she always takes care of me in a way that I have never experienced with any other female friend.
Looking back, Laurie is the one person I felt closest to, and still do and I knew instantly when we met that ours was not the teenage friendship of fighting over boys and clothes and for a spot on the Handball team. Ours was for life. When asked who my best friend is, I do not randomly offer a name so as to be perceived as lucky to have a best friend, I only do so confidently knowing that Laurie's friendship with me is far much more intimate to me emotionally than any friendship I have ever had. She is my best friend for she is compassionate and tends to take care of me all the time. Her key personality trait is a nurturer, and this does not in any way impede her other close attachments to other people.
Our friendship has stood the test of time, and by now, I not only consider Laurie to be a friend but, a sister. We have achieved a level of sisterhood over time. Regular correspondence via email and phone calls plus numerous text messages have enabled us to always keep each other in the loop, even though she now resides in a different country, and I haven't seen her in ages. When we meet, we still manage to laugh just as long and as hard, and despite the fact that she has several degrees to her name and is a medical practitioner, she has never changed one bit. We always get along as if it were just yesterday when we met and she carried my seat to class for me, having volunteered to do so after I reported to school a week late.
The long distance between us does help to keep our friendship intense, and even though over the years I developed other close friendships, I still regard Laurie as my closest friend. This is because Laurie and I communicate deeply and on a personal level and this has personified our transition from teenage girls into women. The voluntary character of sharing and selflessness in our friendship as led to the growth of immense trust within us. I trust her with my life, and everything that is close to me, material, or not.
I know for sure, that when am having a rough day, I can call up Laurie and her sociable banter will make me forget instantly why I was down in the dumps. Since I am a little bit of a loner, and take long to warm up to people especially strangers, and have no clue on how to carry on meaningless banter and small talk, Laurie is my perfect match as she is extremely social and cannot sit still when we are at get togethers or recreations.
Laurie, is somewhat similar to me too as she is empathetic, and she loves nature and kids and old people just like I do. I find it unnaturally easy to understand Laurie as she seems similar to me. We have the same religious values and beliefs, same age, though she is older than I am by exactly a month, and our parents share the same middle names and surnames. Her parents are quite fabulous, and growing up I used to wish that my parents were just like hers; charming and hospitable and quite trusting too. It's a no wonder that these admirable traits rubbed off on her in the most amazing way ever.
Contrary to other friendships, Laurie and I forged a great friendship from the start as she always wants to take care of people and is a great nurturer. Our friendship was built on great initiatives and self revelations from the get go making ours an extremely intimate friendship, and we have never also maintained any reservations with each other. Our friendship is formed and based on a situation where we both had an opportunity to choose an attractive friend and build a relationship through self disclosure and mutual trust.
Nonetheless, in as much as we both have other friends, both of us confess to not being as close knit to them as we are with each other. The moral and intellectual engagement of the set up that we met in has always fostered a deep level of understanding and closeness and also the need to challenge each other on an intellectual level. The fact that we reveal to each other the most intimate details and aspects of our lives to each other ensure that once we meet, we usually pick up from where we left off without a care in the world.
Looking back, Laurie was always exceptionally bright and has one of the brilliant minds that you'll ever find. She wanted to be a doctor so bad and she seemed to be a genius of some sorts with her incredible hands that are always helping out others, and has an uncanny passion for the sciences. People never got to understand what we have in common since am more of an arts person, the sculpting and painting type, and have hobbies that enable me to exercise my creativity in an artsy way, but Laurie encouraged me to forge on,and always be myself at all times and not pay any attention to what people say concerning me or the people that I love.
Laurie has the strongest of personalities that I know, and she does not believe in being ostracized by anyone or anything. Her amazing self confidence is quite admirable too. With all this though, she has steadily remained to be the same person with time and her biggest achievement is: success does not change anything that she doesn't want to change. When all is said and done, I doubt that her sensitive nature, a personality that oozes of charm and warmth will ever change. Of all the friendships that I have made in my life, the one that I have with Laurie Ann is by far the most memorable.